Toxic Treat Interview

Check out my interview with Toxic Treat here.

Rubberotica

Meh.

My date and I slither in, shiny and slick in our red and black latex, go up to the bar, and he orders me my standard jack and coke; he wants absinthe and the bar tender tells him he needs to go to the other side of the bar. So he walks over there and another bar tender says, No, you have to go over there, meaning inside the playroom. Oh, that empty space guarded by a velvet rope and extra large bouncer? We didn't notice that the VIP ticket included exclusive access to the absinthe bar. RIDICULOUS. The bartender was so kind as to get him some anyway.

As per every major fetish event in Los Angeles, the promoters insist they will enforce strict dress code and no cameras. So why does every single event I attend inevitably include some lame ass guys in jeans and t-shirts taking photos with their phones? GET THE FUCK OUT. WHO LETS YOU IN? WHY MUST YOU ANNOY ME?

KinkEvents explains it well here, but why do I still see the same infractions over and over again?

I can understand the playroom and roped off section as being VIP, but really must the Elizabethan theater policy extend to the couches along the wall?

The highlight of my evening came from wandering over to the complimentary lube station by Syren. What a clever idea. How I loved being shined up by some Beautiful Ladies also wearing latex. I'm still moist. But I also very much enjoyed the couple who performed suspension bondage. They had a lovely chemistry; erotic, safe and perfectly balanced D/s.

At the end of the night, I found myself sorely wishing for Club Hell, where there are multiple wonderful performers, places to sit and congregate and tons of kinky people, which is why I can't wait to go next week.

I hope the Fetish Ball is better tonight, but I will not be attending.

Kinky Valentine's Day Presents for the Mistress

Happy Valentine's Day!

Tonight I will don red latex to attend Rubberotica and I'm looking forward to the performances, play and familiar faces.

I am kinky. I am green. Kink and green don't often go together, but I came across this post on Idealbite with several viable options for eco-friendly toys. My favorites are the Coco de Mer sustainable wood paddle and recycled innertube harnass.

And when it's time to clean out that toy drawer, instead of making a clandestine run to the dumpster at midnight, you can recycle them to get gift certificates good for more sex toys.

When I think about all those dildos thrown out in haste . . .

Corsets

I decided to buy a new red latex corset for upcoming kinky Valentine's Day themed events in Los Angeles.

I am a pretty recent convert to latex. At first I didn't understand it, but for a fetish "fabric" it can be so versatile, but always looks enticing.

As for corsets, I have long loved their look and feel. The steel bones holding me in along my long waist, pushing my breasts upward, accentuating my slender neck--this is what makes me feel sexy. I love the feel of the constant hug around my middle. I feel proud. I feel confident.

And yet every time I don a corset I remember what My Spanish professor in college said, "Women were literally encased in whales. Oh yes, it's true!"

Footnight, another well spent night

The night started off particularly well for me as a gentleman sauntered up and complimented my feet. Immediately recognizing me, he said, You are first on my list. I thought he was joking, but then he actually took a list out of his pocket and I was certainly first! We had a very enjoyable time as I smushed him like a bug, fitting as he named himself Bug Boy. I cannot adequately convey the elation I feel when I am engaged in a scene and my companion is smiling in ecstasy and content.

I met some very lovely other gentlemen as well, nervous first-timers and others who recognized me from other venues.

My advice to the gentlemen, please do not be shy about approaching the Beautiful Ladies, we LOVE our feet to be worshiped!

Footnight tonight!

Come worship my perfectly pedicured feet at New Years Foot Party and Model Awards.

Hope to see you downtown, my toes wriggling in your mouth as I giggle or perhaps you will be on the floor as I trample you. The possibilities are endless, especially with so many Beautiful Ladies.

BDSM Wedding

Bride and groom in bright red, the backs of their attire cut out to allow room for the suspension hooks to be placed between their shoulder blades, men in black wearing gloves and masks carefully place the hooks, a hushed tension as everything is in place, the wheel cranks, feet leave the floor, the Mistress audibly gasps, they dangle playfully for a moment, then join, holding hands and face the reverend who begins, "Dearly Beloved . . ." Welcome to LA!

I have been to a few weddings and my date and I agreed that none were as touching, and consequently, as hot as this one.

Congratulations!

Here's to all other kinky hopefuls looking for their lifelong partner!

Check out interview

One of the most delightful and talented Mistresses I know interviewed on LA Talk Radio here.

How to be a Good Wife translated for the modern D/s relationship

I found this a couple of weeks ago. Although the actual article may be a fake according to Snopes, the content is not terribly out of line with a 1950s household. As it was, it of course ruffled my feminist femdomme feathers, but then I realized I liked it a lot better when I slightly edited it to how I like a slave to treat me as his Mistress.

* Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for Her return. This is a way of letting Her know that you have be thinking about Her and are concerned about Her needs. Mistresses are hungry when They get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
* Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when She arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. She has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
* Be a little gay and a little more interesting for Her. Her boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
* Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your Mistress arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
* During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for Her to unwind by. Your Mistress will feel She has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to Her comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
* Minimize all noise. At the time of Her arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum.
* Be happy to see Her.
* Greet Her with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please Her.
* Listen to Her. You may have a dozen important things to tell Her, but the moment of Her arrival is not the time. Let Her talk first - remember, Her topics of conversation are more important than yours.
* Don't greet Her with complaints and problems.
* Don't complain if She's late for dinner or even if She stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what She might have gone through at work.
* Make Her comfortable. Have Her lean back in a comfortable chair or lie Her down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for Her.
* Arrange Her pillow and offer to take off Her shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
* Don't ask Her questions about Her actions or question Her judgment or integrity. Remember, She is the Mistress of the house and as such will always exercise Her will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question Her.

And finally:
* A good slave always knows his place.

Happy New Year!

And Happy Birthday to my blog, it is now one year old.

Looking back, I like the way it has evolved with me as I made the transition from dungeon to independence; I've been reading other important Mistress/sex worker blogs, writing reviews of movies/books/clubs and some of my own fantasies. The last year has seen me through a lot of positive changes and growth, both in my professional and personal life.

At heart I am a writer. I am published in the vanilla, hard copy world. I love that my blog can combine my two favorite things: writing and kink. In the next year, I'm going forward with renewed focus. I will be writing more about my fantasies, as I discover more about what makes me tick as I meet new people and deepen the relationship with my play partner. I will continue to write about good times in the kinky world and with my reviews.

Thank you for reading my blog and giving me feedback!