Holiday Schedule

Yes, I will be in Los Angeles through the holidays, but I will not be available the following dates:

12/24-12/25
12/31-1/1

Screen your Domme

Many clients have come to me, disappointed and upset about other "Dommes" in the scene. I have heard the same complaints numerous types from many different clients over a number of years and I'm somewhat appalled. Their complaints were not so much about a lack of connection (we all have our off days) but a lack of professionalism both from a business woman perspective as well as from a Domme perspective. I would NEVER do some of the things I have heard happen, much less even think that an appropriate way to act.

This is all to be taken with a grain of salt, because of course there are exceptions to every rule:

1) Does she have a website? e-mail address? phone number? The more legitimate ways you have to contact her, the more likely she is legit.

2) How quickly does she get back to you?

2) Is she independent or with an agency? If she is with an agency, they are controlling her pictures and content and may be blatantly making it up. Doing out call? then they might just send someone else.

3) Does she have longevity? The longer she's been a professional the more likely she is experienced and knows what she's doing.

4) Where does she session? Well-equipped studio? Well-equipped toy bag? Ask specifics.

5) How does she respond to reasonable requests? If you ask politely, "Mistress, I love the look of leather. Could you please wear some for our session?" and her response is: "I'll wear whatever I want." I guarantee this is NOT going to be a good session.

6) Reviews? Unfortunately unlike escorts and restaurants, there are less places to review Dommes, but places like Maxfisch and other domme boards do exist. Others will place those reviews directly to their site.

7) Referrals? Is your favorite domme retiring/taking time off/moving? Ask her for a referral, she's the best source as someone who knows your needs and knows other Dommes in the scene.

8) How old are her photos? Are they the same ones you have seen for years? She probably doesn't look like that anymore.

If she doesn't look like her picture, if she doesn't have equipment needed for your session, if she treats you unprofessionally then do not make an appointment! I have NEVER heard a client tell me, "I showed up to her place where she sessions out of her garage, not a studio like she said. She didn't look like her picture. She was wearing jeans and a t-shirt, she didn't have any of the equipment I specifically asked for, but wow, we had a great time!"

Stay safe, get beaten, have fun!

Winner: Justine's pet!

Thank you everyone for donating to the Susan G. Komen Foundation. I just made a reliable third party draw the winner and it is: Justine's Pet! You know who you are, and you should email me to claim your prize, lucky lucky pet.

Hooray for Boobies!

Happy Rocktober! Home to Halloween and Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

Last year, I donated my panties to help raise money for breast cancer in Australia this year I'm going a little more local. So I'm doing something a little different. Every $25 you donate to the Susan G. Komen Foundation enters you into My virtual raffle where you get a chance for a 1 hour session with Me. Donations to this foundation are also deductible.

That's right. $25 to an amazing cause and you might have an amazing hour with Me!

And just because I really want to make sure you donate, I'll sweeten the deal by discounting your session for the month of October. So you get a discount to the session you were already planning with Me AND you get a chance for another one!


Why?

Don't you love breasts as much as I do? And honestly, because I'm TELLING you to donate to this amazing cause.

How does it work?

Go to the Susan G. Komen Foundation Donation page I have specifically created for this project. I will be notified when a donation is made. (If you decide to donate another way, I will need to see proof to enter you into My raffle and discount your session.)


Rules:

1. MY sessioning protocol still stands, i.e. will not be doing something not listed in my interests.
2. Must show proof of donation.
3. Drawing will be on 10/31.
4. One hour session at a location of our mutual agreement; after one hour, standard rates apply.




Both my mother and best friend died from this terrible disease. I am creating this page in their memory.

So please donate, because we all have mothers and best friends.

And we all love breasts, so let's keep them around!

Palm Springs

Need a weekend in the desert, so I will be going out to Palm Springs 10/14-10/17.

The military base Twentynine Palms is close by and I am offering a discount to all military personnel, because I love a man in uniform. Consider this my contribution to the war effort. Marilyn Monroe lent her voice to raise spirits, I'm sure my flogger will do more!

Indecent Proposal

$pread had a column called "Indecent Proposals" asking for the strangest thing someone ever asked you to do on the job. I never got a chance to send mine in, so here ya go!

I interview a gentleman and he wants to do some pretty light BDSM, like tickling and spanking. We enter the studio and I take over pretty quickly, slapping his ass with a leather crop, making him hump the spanking horse, etc. Then he starts talking dirty, "I want you to piss in my mouth. Would you piss in my mouth? I really want that." Oh yeah sure, I think, I'm just going to give that away. He goes on, "Actually I really want you to shit on me. Can you do that?" The clincher came when he said, "I really want you to freeze your shit and fuck me with it up the ass."

I don't think the sexy strap-on elves have crafted a harness for you yet.

At the end of the session, he offered me a discount at his medical spa. To this day, I have to say all the strangest requests I get are from doctors. I take great delight in telling my friends whose parents' are doctors how kinky they must be. :)

Pre-pay your way into My Dungeon

Many people have come to me recently asking about other payment options, so I have decided to allow Paypal as an option. If you pre-pay using Paypal, then I will discount 15% toward your session.

I *might* also be open to other forms of payment such as a gift card, Amazon.com certificates and the like.

Things I Don't Do

There seems to be confusion about what I do or do not do as a Domme.

I play safe, sane and consensual.

I do not allow alcohol or drugs in session, nor should you be intoxicated with any substance when you see Me.

I do not involve other people in my session, with the exception of other professional Dommes that I know or My vanilla friends. This includes public humiliation, as it should be discrete, and the public is not consenting to O/our scene.

I do not offer scat play.

I do not like getting e-mails asking for intense and extensive play without references. If you do not have any professional references, than you begin your training at My discretion.

And if you don't like that, than you can fuck off and go see a lesser domme and leave Me and My time the fuck alone.

"I have no limits. Do anything you want to me."

Possibly the most UNsexy thing a "submissive" can say to me.

Everyone has limits. If you don't tell me what they are, I guarantee, I will find them and take you straight sailing to that place. You have no idea how creative, diabolic and sadistic I am. And if you have said that to other Dommes, and they couldn't find your "nonexistent" limits than chances are they didn't take you very far.

Everyone has likes and dislikes. If someone says to me "I have no limits" that means "I don't know what I want." If you don't know what you want, I'm only going to do things that I enjoy and you can decide later if you like them or not.

Some tame examples of what I like to do when someone says that to me:

Make him my foot rest as I continue reading whatever I please, digging my sharp stilettos into a naked back.

Take his credit card and buy lots of panties for me and my lady friends.

Trying unconventional implements for corporal punishment; e.g. my cooking utensils.



I really enjoy sessions that push limits. Most of my clients remark on how I take them much further than they thought they could go. So let's go there.

Same Day and Daytime Appointments

In the past, my schedule did not readily allow me to have same day or make day time appointments. My new schedule and new studio spaces now allow me to accommodate such appointments. I still, however, recommend giving me advance notice so that I may plan accordingly.

So don't hesitate, let's move before I raise my rate!

Nothing says thank you, like a thank you!

Call me old-fashioned, call me what you will, but I love when someone sends a follow-up thank you note after our session. Maybe people do not know how to write a thank you or do not know that I would really love to hear it, but it really means so much to me that I have created an experience for someone that he is thinking about the next day or days later and he takes the time to let me know.

It could be something simple, i.e. "You rocked my world."

If you wanted to write something more formal, tell me what you specifically liked about what we did, how it made you feel, perhaps something you would like to try the next time.

But, the next time I (or anyone for that matter) rocks your world, makes you cry tears of pain and joy and proves that the multiple male orgasm DOES exist, take a couple of minutes and write a thank you! It speaks volumes about character and makes future time together so much better.

Happy Spanksgiving!

This year, I am thankful for all my sexy friends and you! Some of you are also my sexy friends, fellow bloggers, or new people to have fun with--and I am thankful you read my blog!

It was a pretty mellow day for me, drinking fine wine and enjoying fine company. As per usual, I contributed to the feast with my excellent vegan desserts. This year I made pumpkin bread and apple pie that were quite well received. Amusing to me and my hosts was the fact I delivered said desserts in a Pleaser shoe box that once contained my over the knee buckled beauties.

We concluded the evening watching Blood Freak, a B-movie tradition for me about a man who eats tainted turkey which turned him into a, ahem, blood freak, or just a man wearing a paper mache turkey head. For the first time, I explored the other totally odd extras that included some noir skin flick shorts.

Hope you had a truly wonderful Spanksgiving! If you want to make it more wonderful, you will take advantage of my all weekend special.

Spanksgiving Special!

Tis the season to be thankful that Ms. Justine offers such kick ass specials to the needy--needing to be beat, that is.

I will be offering my popular Saturday Recession Session special all weekend. Offer good November 27 - 29. (Friday through Sunday; it cannot be combined with any other specials.)

Come see Me. You will be thankful.

Mistresses who do and don't?

A recent blog post from a Mistress who has decided to stop offering her services as a pro-Domme based on her estimation that pro-Domme experiences have become full-service and sexual, has made me aware of an apparent debate of Mistresses who do or don't.

And, in the words of Lewis Black, I keep thinking, did I miss a day in school somewhere?

I have never done anything with my clients outside of strict BDSM. I am always fully clothed. Oncemore, all the pro-Dommes I personally know in or outside of LA operate the same way.

Are there really so many pro-Dommes out there who are having sex with their clients? I posted the question on twitter and got one response, from a sub, who said he heard that some gave handjobs.

I've known of escorts who may dom or sub at their discretion, but on the whole, they are looking for another connection with a client, usually to have sex, not to have a full-on BDSM session.

I remember being in a commercial dungeon and being annoyed, along with my other "independent contractors" when clients came in clearly wanting more than BDSM--sometimes only wanting more than BDSM. We didn't care so much that they wanted it, we just weren't going to give it to them; we wanted to refer them to other sex workers who would give them what they wanted and leave us alone. I've long wanted to make a quiz for clueless people, called "This is the Sex Worker for You!" Here is a sample question:

Do you want your balls . . .

a. smashed
b. banging against pussy
c. grinded through your pants with pasties in your face.
d. to be touched by yourself as you talk to someone endlessly on the internet about what you would do if you were both there in the same room naked as opposed to being in different time zones with your respective spouses upstairs asleep.

If you answered mostly A's, you want a Domme. If you answered mostly B's, you want an escort. If you answered mostly C's you want a stripper. If you answered mostly D's, you want an emotional affair which although isn't a sex worker, yes, it's still cheating, and yes, you are an asshole, because this means you can't actualize what you would like to do with the person you are in a relationship with nor can you find a live person to do it with, get a life, seek help and stop using the internet.

This test is by no means conclusive, but I had no idea another answer choice was needed, i.e. if you answered A's and B's, you want a Dommescort.

Searching the internet for answers, I found the noted interview
with Mistress Y from Smith magazine where she says, "No. I don’t have conventional sex with my clients."

But it's from 2007, so maybe something has changed. I found a post from a Mistress just this month on a marketing site where she says "At no time does a mistress have sex with a client."

Dare I quote FOXSexpert: To Be a Dominatrix, where Yvonne Fullbright contends, "but the fact that they are able to avoid intercourse is the main reason your “average” women in need of cash are going this route."

Here's another domme from New York City who in her interview also says, "For the client, being dominated is 100% about sensuality but it is not about sex. There is no sex and no nudity inside a dungeon."

A thread on Yahoo answers where this is a resounding "no" to the question if Mistresses have sex with their clients

Then, there's the interview with Mistress Georgia to consider: "In California being a dominatrix is legal because there is never any sex (at all) involved in being a dominatrix."

Here's an interview from a Mistress from London who said, "There was never any sex involved in the ‘sessions’.

I am very pro-prostitution.* I think it should be legalized and even if it never is, I still think it is valid and needed work. I have friends who are escorts and would never judge someone for doing this type of sex work, it is just not for me. Why? Because I'm a fucking dominatrix!

In $pread magazine, there is a column for the weirdest request from a client. What strikes me as odd about these requests, is many of them aren't that odd, they just seemed to be misdirected to the incorrect type of sex worker. The example that comes to mind is the guy who asked a stripper to kick him in the balls. Certainly not at all odd for me, working or not, but this was weird as hell for her. Why? Because she was a fucking stripper.

So, tell me. Are you fucking your clients? Because I'm fucking not.



*I think it's important to clarify that I believe there to be three main categories of prostitution. I endorse people who make 1) an uncoerced choice to enter into prostitution. I do NOT mean 2) forced sexual slavery or 3) people who think they have no choice but to enter sex work for various economical, social, and political reasons beyond their control.

June Gloom in Review

Where did this month go?

I've been very busy hence my lack of posting. I've been doing a lot of reading, exploring and kinky reorganization. A few of my favorite snap shots of the last few weeks:

--hot, hot, hot photo shoot with Jenny Demilo where I discipline a naughty school girl (to be posted soon! a few sneak peeks can be found on Facebook and Myspace.)

--beat the hell out of a Marine; lots of intense CBT with weights and spiky things. Consider it my contribution to the war effort.

--teasing and denying a sub at my feet for hours; smacking him for indolence, rewarding him for obedience.

--deep psychological torture of an all too willing participant; don't play mind games with me darling, you'll be up way past your bedtime.


I'm feeling very athletic these days and seek to work out some frustrations.

Perhaps you could be of some service?

Reviews

During my time as a Domme in LA, I have had many lovely encounters at the Dominion, as an independent and even at Footnight. If you would like to post a review of me on Maxfisch or Allstardommes, you will receive a 20% on your next session with me. If you do not have an account at these sites and do not wish to make one, you can also give me permission to post your e-mail about our experience.

I would like to eventually post these reviews on my site. Of course, I will keep your information private.

Why Same Day Appointments are Impossible

There has also been a rash of eager beavers hoping to get a same day appointments. Suddenly, I realized that I have never granted a same-day appointment.

So my little ones here is why:

1. Logistics
I respond to every sincere inquiry within 24 hours. Even if you are sincere and I do not think we are a suitable match, I will still let you know. Many times I will respond to e-mails within hours, but I choose not to live by my inbox. Since I enjoy so many other things, it seems limiting. So when you e-mail me at 10pm, wanting to see me at 11pm, it is very likely that I have either retired for the night or am out making my own trouble. Do you respond to all your e-mails within minutes?

2. Preparation.
Even if I did get your last minute e-mail, I couldn't possibly prepare for our time together. I start thinking about it the moment you contact me, from space, to toys, to lighting, to wardrobe, right down to the music I will play. I do everything I can to create a mutually enjoyable scene, which is not something I can do with short notice.

3. Classiness/Respect
I am not a corner barber shop you can just wander into on a lark. I am a Lady. I lead a very full schedule. It is disrespectful of Me and My time to inquire about a last minute appointment. Do you expect to be seated with no reservation at four star restaurant?

I want to play with you. I want us both to have an amazing time. Please schedule your appointments with as much notice as possible, ensuring that amazing time.

Recession Sessions

What's your obsession?

1. Saturdays *only* I will offer 50% off my normal rate.
2. New clients *only* will receive 20% off my normal rate.

FAQ
1. Why are you doing this?
The reasons are obvious. I believe this recession is going to last
much longer than anyone realizes or wants to admit. We all still want
to play regardless.

2. I'm a new client, can I see you on Saturday and receive 70% off?
No.

3. You're not going to berate me for asking such a stupid question?
No.

4. How did you get so awesome?
I read a lot.